Looking for specific principles as I read the Book of Mormon is a powerful way for me to 'search' the scriptures. As I read the Book of Mormon this time, one of things I am focusing on is finding principles that will help me be a better husband and father.
1 Ne 5:1-9 highlights powerful principles related to handling stressful family situations and conflict in relationships. In this example, Sariah was struggling. She was missing her sons. They were on a very dangerous mission, and she was worried about them. She appears to have temporarily struggled, and complained against Lehi, due to her fears. She focused on the negative, and even seemed to chastise Lehi a little bit for having visions, and following the instructions of the Lord.
Lehi's response is very instructive. He did not appear to get defensive. He did not appear to attack back. He listened to Sariah's concerns. He comforted her by testifying to her of the things he had seen and received. He reminded her of the overall perspective needed. That because of the visions, he knew of the goodness of a God. That they would not perish at Jerusalem. That the Lord would give them a land of promise. That the Lord would deliver their children. He was listening, patient, soothing, and prophetic. He had the Spirit and he testified of these things. It was 'after this manner of language' that Lehi comforted Sariah. Thus, when the sons did return, she was able to see the hand of God in it, and her faith and testimony were strengthened. Sariah then rejoiced in the Lord and 'after this manner of language' did she also speak.
In marriages and families, we sometimes face stressful situations. Sometimes I struggle to be sufficiently strong. Sometimes it is a family member that is struggling. When I struggle, I appreciate a response like Lehi's. When someone else struggles, I want to be able to respond like Lehi. When someone complains or attacks, I can be patient. I can understand that there is a valid source of fear and frustration. I can listen, provide comfort and testimony, and help them see the vision and feel the Spirit. I can speak 'after this manner of language' that Lehi used, rather than the language of the natural man. And as the trial is resolved, the Lord will confirm our testimonies and we will grow and be strengthened.
I enjoyed reading your insight. Thanks for sharing. I often get frustrated and short with my family instead of listening and being patient during stressful times. This insight inspires me to be more like Lehi.
ReplyDeleteThanks for your comment. I also have a hard time being patient during stressful times. Even in not so stressful times! I had opportunity yesterday to apply this scripture. We took the kids skiing - for 3 of them, it was their first time. We couldn't focus completely on all three at the same time and some of them were complaining quite a bit and being really stubborn. It was quite chaotic for awhile. I was having a really hard time being patient. Why couldn't they just be a little more independent and adventurous? Or at least patient? When I struggled to be patient and understanding with their fears, I reminded myself of this scripture a number of times. It helped me to keep a little perspective and not get as frustrated as I otherwise would have. It also helped me again see how weak I am and how much I need the Savior.
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